This book was helpful to me. Ultimately, the author seeks to show to readers how anxiety (underground or on the surface) within our relationships with members of our family of origin (parents and siblings) contributes to anxiety in other aspects of our lives - such as with significant others or loved ones. In my mind, as I was reading, the author's arguments reflected accurately my own experiences - though I did not see the connections between my own life and the author's arguments prior to reading the book. I just finished it a few days ago, having borrowed it from a friend. I have since bought this copy on eBay and another copy in a store here in town. One will be for me; the other, to loan to friends or family. The book has been met with some strong popularity among people who are actually willing to read books which encourage people to reflect critically on their selves and on their families. I felt that the author took about the first half of the book to build up to her points before I was convinced - but that's what solid arguments do, when they're asserting something that is not intuitive, obvious, or necessarily easy to accept. If you give this book a go, you will likely need to read up to and including the last two or three chapters before you feel that the reading experience has been enlightening or helpful. Prior to that, you are reading a lot of preliminary suppositions and supporting data. It will all come together just before the end - but the last two or three chapters were, for me, quite a joy to read. I will hang on to this book (I bought a signed copy!). I will read it again, cover to cover; and I will also likely refer to the book from time to time with or without reason, opening to some mostly random page between the covers to see if anything special jumps out at me as I read a page or two. It seems to me, though, that the book is at its best when read from beginning to end. Some books in the same broad genre as this one I have been able to simply open to some page in the middle and read something which proved to be remarkably helpful to me at that moment in my life. This book is more of a long, elaborate, but convincing argument than a collection of anecdotes or something. It is intelligently written, thoughtfully written, and likely contains a great deal of truth for pretty much everybody alive in our time and place.Read full review
I used this book, & her others, in the 1990's, as did a friend of mine, so much that it became worn. NOW, IN YEAR 2019, I FIND I NEED TO REMEMBER ALL OF THE INSIGHTS, HELP, & ENCOURAGEMENT THAT I RECEIVED SO LONG AGO!!! THIS A BIBLE FOR THE SOUL, RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERS, & SELF!!!
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I bought this book because I feel that I have intimacy issues. This book had been recommended to me by my therapist, but I could not even finish the book. It was just so boring, and I have a hard time keeping up with a book where the author shares story after story of other cases. I prefer a book with instructive advice that I can use, as opposed to one that simply shares stories of the problems of other folks and how THEY deal with them. Dance of Intimacy just wasn't at all helpful to me, so I am still out there, looking for one that is.
Find yourself rescuing others out of their problems. Do you over function or under function in relationship. It's a well known dance. Simple ways to break patterns are in this book. Highly recommend.
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A gentle guide to what can be a scary journey.
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