I bought this book when my husband and I decided I would be a full time SAHM when we had out third child. Needless to say, I was a bit put off by some of Dr. Laura's advice. She basically expects women to care for there husbands as if they are children with the demands of children. Now there were merits to the book, but it was difficult for me to take advice from a woman who only had one child, not three. Below are some of the pros: *** Pros: This book will motivate you to act in a more loving manner towards your husband. It does point out some things that aren't awlays obvious to women ~ mens needs are basic: food and sex along with a little pat on the back every now and then. My husband and I discussed this at length and he was in agreement that this is all men are asking for. *** Cons: Dr. Laura puts husbands needs on the same level as your children's, adding to the juggling act. She is highly opinionated and needs to temper her advice a bit if she wants to appeal to mainstream. All in all, I read most of this book, and found the advice a bit overwhelming. Definitely worth it to get a different perspective of marital bliss, but you have to take it with a grain of salt and apply what works for your relationship!Read full review
I bought this book thinking that it would provide some realistic advice about what a woman can do to improve her marital relationship with her husband. I hardly realized that Schlessinger would put 150% of the responsibility on the wife! The premise of "Dr" Laura's book is simple: Your husband's needs are important. Yours aren't. Your husband must be completely satisifed and happy at all times. You should not expect to be completely satisified and happy at all times since that makes you selfish. Your husband's criticism should be accepted graciously. You should never, however, criticize him. Take his advice appreciately. Do not give him advice. When it comes to sex, it's his show. He's the Director, you're just an actor. Sex is for him, when he wants it, if he wants it, as he wants it. Your sexual needs or desire are not, nor should they ever be, considerations on his part. If you have kids, you have him to thank. When it comes to their care, the kids are yours. When it comes to their accomplishments, the kids are his. You must lavish constant compliments upon him for every thing he does. You must show your undying devotion and appreciation by keeping your mouth shut when he disappoints you, going to events that you don't enjoy, and by entertaining his friends that you don't like. He, on the other hand, can forget your anniversary, your birthday or what time to pick you up from an appointment. If he doesn't surprise you with flowers, don't be sad. Remember, he mowed the lawn for you...that's recognition enough. If he cheats on you or beats you, it's your fault. You had it coming because you either married a jerk to begin with or you failed to be completely submissive to his every whim and desire. Get real. Schlessinger isn't even a "Dr"; psychiatrist or psychologist. Her own marriage is the result of an adulterous affair. Her kid bears HER last name, not her husband's. Her husband manages her business and he does all the cooking at home. If you're going to take advice from someone, at least take it from someone who walks the walk when they talk the talk. Better, take it from someone who has something positive to say about the wife's contribution to the marriage. Schlessinger's book gives women plenty of reasons to stay single. Worse yet, she portrays men as selfish, self centered, instinct driven, brainless morons. Most of us know better. Way better.....Read full review
I picked this book as a book club book and I really, really enjoyed it. I read it aloud with my husband a few times, and now he jokes that it is his new favorite book. Dr. Laura talks really frankly, and slightly harshly, to women about how to be better wives. The thing is, as you read it, you know that if you take Dr. Laura's advice, you will indeed have a much happier marriage. This book gave me a feeling of great empowerment because it reminded me of the power I have to make my marriage wonderful. It also reminded me that if I just do a few simple things for my husband on a regular basis, he will do whatever he can to keep me happy as well. I really appreciated that Dr. Laura had the courage to say many things that are totally taboo in today's society. I believe that people, and women specifically, are constantly being fed lies by the media and by Hollywood about what makes a woman happy and what makes a marriage work. Dr. Laura was courageous enough to emphasize that any woman's primary and most important role is as a wife and a mother.Read full review
As simple as it is written it actually had very good content. I thought it was very meat and potatoes avoiding the usual psycho-babble of most competitive books on this subject. It avoids the usual "victim" mentality of most relationship books. It is far from a bible, however definitely worth the read. My wife hates most of what Laura says on the radio, however she was open minded enough to read the book together. It has opened our eyes and had a positive effect on our marriage. How long that will last is another story. Bad habits are much like a muscle, they retain memory that takes a while to get rid of. I am certain we will do a few refreshers on the subject.
A must-read for every single MAN or woman. It is so important to understand the difference between man and woman in order to have a functional marriage. We have been married for 50 wonderful years and still re-read and discuss this book together.
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