ReviewsSometimes, at a routine ultrasound, instead of finding out Team Pink or Team Blue, parents are confronted with the heart shattering news that something is terribly wrong. The parents must sit with this sad truth. The Prenatal Bombshell, which Sherokee Ilse and Stephanie Azri so carefully crafted from a tender, non-judgmental place of compassion, may just be the life preserver those parents need to slowly but surely pull themselves from the cold depths and into a place where they can take a few deep breaths and find a few moments of peace. This book offers options, it offers advice, but most importantly, it offers comfort and connection. The Prenatal Bombshell is written with the perfect combination of knowledge and humanity. This book will be a deeply appreciated gift for the parents who receive it in their time of need, and should be required reading for the doctors and nurses who care for these patients., I often use Sherokee's book Precious Lives, Painful Choices: A Prenatal Decision-Making Guide for teaching and for support for families at the time of the devastating news. And now I am very grateful for The Prenatal Bombshell, which helps with the next phase of their journey. It provides a much needed resource of practical advice and parents' words and experiences to help families live through the aftermath of such a heart-wrenching time., Skillful, sensitive guidance from two of the most respected names in infant loss. Courageous and comprehensive, The Prenatal Bombshell answers every question parents desperately need to ask -- and more., I often use Sherokee's book Precious Lives, Painful Choices: A Prenatal Decision-Making Guide for teaching and for support for families at the time of the devastating news. And now I am very grateful for The Prenatal Bombshell, which helps with the next phase of their journey. It provides a much needed resource of practical advice and parents' words and experiences to help families live through the aftermath of such a heart-wrenching time., In this long overdue book, Azri and Ilse speak wisdom and peace for families who have received devastating news. Readers who are grappling with the most difficult decision they'll ever have to make will discover in these pages compassionate and straightforward information and encouragement for the way forward. Sections about questions of faith, guilt, and shame as well as about handling critical reactions from others will be especially helpful to parents grappling with unexpected pregnancy outcomes. The Prenatal Bombshell is an invaluable resource not only for grieving parents and families, but also for health care professionals, spiritual and religious leaders, counselors, and bereavement support groups., As a mother who has had to experience first-hand the pain of my son's shortened life due to life saving measures that were taken to save my own, I found this book to be unique. Honestly, I wish this book would have been a resource after the passing of my son ... what peace and simple acknowledgement it would have brought to many of the challenges I faced in the beginning of my journey. Extra support is given through quotes from the hearts of parents who "get it." A much needed for parents experiencing such an emotional bomb during what should be a happy and joyous time. Exceptional read!, Azri, a clinical social worker, and Ilse, the author of numerous books for parents dealing with the death of an infant (Empty Arms), approach their subject as professionals, but also as women who have suffered the loss of newborns. They cover the physical and mental states that parents are likely to go through, with plentiful advice ('Save everything, even if you're unsure you will want such mementos later') on taking care of oneself and one's family. The book is divided into two separate sections based on whether parents terminate or continue the pregnancy, as well as a jointly applicable section on how to move on after a difficult diagnosis. They address difficult but important practical considerations in chapters like 'If Your Baby Dies.' The book's underlying message for parents is to look clearly at what is happening and to accept, not try to deny, the difficult emotions that it will bring. This book is an excellent vehicle for coming to grips with a very difficult situation., Sometimes, at a routine ultrasound, instead of finding out Team Pink or Team Blue, parents are confronted with the heart shattering news that something is terribly wrong. The parents must sit with this sad truth. The Prenatal Bombshell, which Sherokee Ilse and Stephanie Azri so carefully crafted from a tender, non-judgmental place of compassion, may just be the life preserver those parents need to slowly but surely pull themselves from the cold depths and into a place where they can take a few deep breaths and find a few moments of peace. This book offers options, it offers advice, but most importantly, it offers comfort and connection. The Prenatal Bombshell is written with the perfect combination of knowledge and humanity. This book will be a deeply appreciated gift for the parents who receive it in their time of need, and should be required reading for the doctors and nurses who care for these patients., What an amazing, in-depth guiding resource to help families after they receive the devastating prenatal diagnosis of their baby yet to be born. As a mom myself who has experienced the loss of my much loved baby boy, Bryce, I am now a trained "Baby Loss Family Advisor" who helps guide these newly bereaved families (as well as helps the caregivers who serve them.) I look forward to using this gem of a resource when I work with families in the future. It is sensitive, compassionate, and unbiased, providing guidance whether parents continue or end a pregnancy after a poor diagnosis. Full of deep wisdom, love, respect and true guidance, this resource will help families cope after their decision is made and in the days and years ahead. One of the special things about this book is the many quotes and nuggets of wisdom shared from other parents who have been there, gone through it and come out the other side of this heartbreaking experience in an empowered and healthy way., Azri, a clinical social worker, and Ilse, the author of numerous books for parents dealing with the death of an infant (Empty Arms), approach their subject as professionals, but also as women who have suffered the loss of newborns. They cover the physical and mental states that parents are likely to go through, with plentiful advice ('Save everything, even if you're unsure you will want such mementos later') on taking care of oneself and one's family. The book is divided into two separate sections based on whether parents terminate or continue the pregnancy, as well as a jointly applicable section on how to move on after a difficult diagnosis. They address difficult but important practical considerations in chapters like 'If Your Baby Dies.' 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Table Of ContentForeword by Kiley Hanish of the movie Return to Zero Message from the Authors Acknowledgements Setting the Stage How to Use This Book Decisions Made after Receiving the News Questioning One's Faith Guilt, Blame, and Shame How to Tell Others PART 1 The Journey of Continuing the Pregnancy Introduction 1: Embrace your pregnancy 2: Palliative Care and Perinatal Hospice 3: Pressure from others to change your mind 4: Family Dynamics 5: Medical Issues 6: Birth Plans and Preparation 7: The Labor and Birth 8: If Your Baby is Born Alive 9: If Your Baby Dies 10: Memory Creation 11: Saying Goodbye PART 2 The Journey of Ending the Pregnancy Introduction 12: Living Beyond the Decision 13: Regrets and Guilt 14: Family Dynamics 15: Holding onto Memories PART 3 Continuing Your Healing Journey 16: Early days 17: Building support from others 18: How Men and Women Grieve and Get Along204 19: Single Moms 20: Supporting Your Children 21: Workplace Issues 22: Postpartum and Self-Care 23: Grief and Healing 24: Down the Road a Bit 25: Trying Again 26: Rainbow Baby Resources Bibliography Author Biographies
SynopsisFinding out your unborn child has been diagnosed with a poor or fatal prenatal diagnosis is devastating news sure to reverberate through your family's life forever. The emotional aspects of such a pregnancy and the practical implications of an adverse diagnosis are difficult to navigate. The Prenatal Bombshell is a warm and understanding companion guide through the journey from diagnosis and beyond once you've decided to either continue or end your precious pregnancy. Issues such as managing the pregnancy, delivery, termination, creating memories, future babies, and the long term impact of such a traumatic experience are all covered in detail. The lived experiences of other women who have gone through this journey are also included to provide hope, support, and guidance through difficult times. The Prenatal Bombshell does not attempt to convince women to make a particular choice about their pregnancy. It supports them from their choice onwards in a way that is honest, informative, and reliable. Filled with stories and testimonies, this is a helpful book to have during, and well beyond, a poor prenatal diagnosis., The Prenatal Bombshell is for women who have received a poor or fatal prenatal diagnosis for their unborn child and have made the decision to either carry to term or terminate their pregnancies. The authors share emotional and practical information, as well as real accounts from women who have made these decisions and how they moved forward.