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- Condition
- Original Language
- English
- Type
- Novel
- Intended Audience
- Young Adults
- ISBN
- 9780593492628
- Book Title
- It's Not You : Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People
- Item Length
- 8.6 in
- Publisher
- Penguin Publishing Group
- Publication Year
- 2024
- Format
- Hardcover
- Language
- English
- Illustrator
- Yes
- Item Height
- 1.2 in
- Genre
- Family & Relationships, Self-Help, Psychology, Philosophy
- Topic
- Abuse / General, Free Will & Determinism, Personality, Mental Health, Personal Growth / Self-Esteem
- Item Width
- 5.8 in
- Item Weight
- 16 Oz
- Number of Pages
- 368 Pages
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INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER From clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic relationships Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a guide to protecting and healing yourself from the daily harms of narcissism AN OPEN FIELD PUBLICATION FROM MARIA SHRIVER It's not always easy to tell when you're dealing with a narcissistic person. One day they draw you in with their charm and charisma, the next they gaslight you, wreck your self-esteem, and leave you wondering, What should I have done differently? As Dr. Ramani explains in It's Not You , the answer is: absolutely nothing. Just as a tiger can't change its stripes, a narcissist will not stop manipulating and invalidating you, no matter how much you try to appease them. The first step toward healing from their toxic influence--and to protect yourself from future harm--is to accept that you are not to blame for their behavior. Drawing on more than two decades of studying the landscape of narcissism and working with survivors, Dr. Ramani explores how narcissists hijack our well-being and offers a healing path forward. Unpacking the oft-misunderstood personality, she reveals the telltale behavioral patterns that indicate you may be dealing with a narcissist. Along the way, you'll learn how to become gaslight resistant, chip away at the trauma bonds that keep you stuck in the cycle, grieve the loss of these painful relationships, create and maintain realistic boundaries, discern unhelpful behaviors from narcissistic behaviors, and recover your sense of self after constant invalidation. Thriving after, or even during, a narcissistic relationship can be challenging, but It's Not You shows you it is possible. Dr. Ramani invites you to stop blaming yourself and trying to change the narcissistic person, and to start giving yourself permission to let go of their hold on you and finally embrace your true self.
Product Identifiers
Publisher
Penguin Publishing Group
ISBN-10
0593492625
ISBN-13
9780593492628
eBay Product ID (ePID)
10060633246
Product Key Features
Book Title
It's Not You : Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People
Format
Hardcover
Language
English
Topic
Abuse / General, Free Will & Determinism, Personality, Mental Health, Personal Growth / Self-Esteem
Publication Year
2024
Illustrator
Yes
Genre
Family & Relationships, Self-Help, Psychology, Philosophy
Number of Pages
368 Pages
Dimensions
Item Length
8.6 in
Item Height
1.2 in
Item Width
5.8 in
Item Weight
16 Oz
Additional Product Features
Intended Audience
Trade
Lc Classification Number
Bf575.N35d877 2024
Reviews
"A must read. Dr. Ramani will teach you how to heal from any toxic relationship. With her expert advice based on decades of research and clinical experience, she makes the impossible seem possible." -Mel Robbins, bestselling author of The High Five Habit and host of The Mel Robbins Podcast "Dr. Ramani has written the book on narcissism for our times, not simply because it upends everything we thought we knew about this personality, but because it gives real people a sense of hope...that they can heal, that they can move forward from these relationships, that it''s not you ." -Maria Shriver "In writing It''s Not You , Dr. Durvasula directly addresses victims of narcissistic abuse with targeted advice developed through years of clinical experience and research. I would highly recommend this book to anyone struggling in a relationship with a narcissist. Once you realize it''s not you who is the problem, you can become the solution." -W. Keith Campbell, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Georgia and author of The Narcissism Epidemic " It''s Not You tackles a subject matter so wildly misunderstood and offers a path forward for those who have been, or currently are in narcissistic relationships. With deep compassion, Dr. Ramani masterfully helps the reader shift from self-blame to seeing the picture clearly. What a profound gift it is to those who will see their experience written about in this book and feel a little less alone." - Vienna Pharaon, bestselling author of The Origins of You and host of the This Keeps Happening podcast "Whether you are looking to avoid damaging relationships, leave one, or finally move on from one, Dr. Ramani has produced a work that is utterly essential for understanding the patterns we were never built to see coming. By lifting the veil on these people, she not only teaches us about them, but how to stop shaming ourselves for who we had to become to survive them. It''s Not You is not just life-saving, but life-restoring. More than a way out, it''s a way back, to yourself." -Matthew Hussey, host of the Love Life with Matthew Hussey podcast "Emotionally abusive relationships take away our voice and our power, and Dr. Ramani gives us the tools and teaches all of us how to take ourselves back and feel whole again." -Debra Newell, author of Surviving Dirty John "What sets Dr. Ramani apart is her valuable emphasis on healing from the damaging effects of a narcissist''s destructive behavior. With a direct and compassionate approach, she reminds us that it is possible to heal. As always, Dr. Ramani gives comfort and validation to the ''lions''. It''s Not You is a gift." -Jenifer Faison, host of the Betrayal podcast "Dr. Ramani is one of the most respected experts on healing and narcissism. In this important book, I''m grateful she includes the often unseen world of grief and narcissism. She gives deep insights and sound advice on the experience of grief. It''s Not You is a must read." -David Kessler, author of Finding Meaning " It''s Not You is, simply put, brilliant. In straightforward, clear language, Dr. Ramani has created a framework for deeply understanding the complexities of, and healing from, this most insidious form of abuse. She challenges misconceptions and glaring gaps in knowledge of current paradigms in traditional psychology and with compassion and refreshing candor, guides us through hell--and back to our true selves." -Mark Vicente, NXIVM whistleblower and director of Empathy Not Included "A compassionate roadmap and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships...that helps...them understand how to heal and thrive during and after these challenging relationships." -Jay Shetty, bestselling author of Think Like A Monk and host of the On Purpose Podcast, "A compassionate roadmap and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships...that helps...them understand how to heal and thrive during and after these challenging relationships." -Jay Shetty, bestselling author of Think Like A Monk and host of the On Purpose Podcast "A must read. Dr. Ramani will teach you how to heal from any toxic relationship. With her expert advice based on decades of research and clinical experience, she makes the impossible seem possible." -Mel Robbins, bestselling author of The High Five Habit and host of The Mel Robbins Podcast "In writing It's Not You , Dr. Durvasula directly addresses victims of narcissistic abuse with targeted advice developed through years of clinical experience and research. I would highly recommend this book to anyone struggling in a relationship with a narcissist. Once you realize it's not you who is the problem, you can become the solution." -W. Keith Campbell, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Georgia and author of The Narcissism Epidemic " It's Not You tackles a subject matter so wildly misunderstood and offers a path forward for those who have been, or currently are in narcissistic relationships. With deep compassion, Dr. Ramani masterfully helps the reader shift from self-blame to seeing the picture clearly. What a profound gift it is to those who will see their experience written about in this book and feel a little less alone." - Vienna Pharaon, bestselling author of The Origins of You and host of the This Keeps Happening podcast "Whether you are looking to avoid damaging relationships, leave one, or finally move on from one, Dr. Ramani has produced a work that is utterly essential for understanding the patterns we were never built to see coming. By lifting the veil on these people, she not only teaches us about them, but how to stop shaming ourselves for who we had to become to survive them. It's Not You is not just life-saving, but life-restoring. More than a way out, it's a way back, to yourself." -Matthew Hussey, host of the Love Life with Matthew Hussey podcast "Emotionally abusive relationships take away our voice and our power, and Dr. Ramani gives us the tools and teaches all of us how to take ourselves back and feel whole again." -Debra Newell, author of Surviving Dirty John "What sets Dr. Ramani apart is her valuable emphasis on healing from the damaging effects of a narcissist's destructive behavior. With a direct and compassionate approach, she reminds us that it is possible to heal. As always, Dr. Ramani gives comfort and validation to the 'lions'. It's Not You is a gift." -Jenifer Faison, host of the Betrayal podcast "Dr. Ramani is one of the most respected experts on healing and narcissism. In this important book, I'm grateful she includes the often unseen world of grief and narcissism. She gives deep insights and sound advice on the experience of grief. It's Not You is a must read." -David Kessler, author of Finding Meaning " It's Not You is, simply put, brilliant. In straightforward, clear language, Dr. Ramani has created a framework for deeply understanding the complexities of, and healing from, this most insidious form of abuse. She challenges misconceptions and glaring gaps in knowledge of current paradigms in traditional psychology and with compassion and refreshing candor, guides us through hell--and back to our true selves." -Mark Vicente, NXIVM whistleblower and director of Empathy Not Included, "A must read. Dr. Ramani will teach you how to heal from any toxic relationship. With her expert advice based on decades of research and clinical experience, she makes the impossible seem possible." -Mel Robbins, bestselling author of The High Five Habit and host of The Mel Robbins Podcast "Dr. Ramani has written the book on narcissism for our times, not simply because it upends everything we thought we knew about this personality, but because it gives real people a sense of hope...that they can heal, that they can move forward from these relationships, that it''s not you ." -Maria Shriver "In writing It''s Not You , Dr. Durvasula directly addresses victims of narcissistic abuse with targeted advice developed through years of clinical experience and research. I would highly recommend this book to anyone struggling in a relationship with a narcissist. Once you realize it''s not you who is the problem, you can become the solution." -W. Keith Campbell, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Georgia and author of The Narcissism Epidemic " It''s Not You tackles a subject matter so wildly misunderstood and offers a path forward for those who have been, or currently are in narcissistic relationships. With deep compassion, Dr. Ramani masterfully helps the reader shift from self-blame to seeing the picture clearly. What a profound gift it is to those who will see their experience written about in this book and feel a little less alone." - Vienna Pharaon, bestselling author of The Origins of You and host of the This Keeps Happening podcast "Whether you are looking to avoid damaging relationships, leave one, or finally move on from one, Dr. Ramani has produced a work that is utterly essential for understanding the patterns we were never built to see coming. By lifting the veil on these people, she not only teaches us about them, but how to stop shaming ourselves for who we had to become to survive them. It''s Not You is not just life-saving, but life-restoring. More than a way out, it''s a way back, to yourself." -Matthew Hussey, host of the Love Life with Matthew Hussey podcast "Emotionally abusive relationships take away our voice and our power, and Dr. Ramani gives us the tools and teaches all of us how to take ourselves back and feel whole again." -Debra Newell, author of Surviving Dirty John "A compassionate roadmap and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships...that helps...them understand how to heal and thrive during and after these challenging relationships." -Jay Shetty, bestselling author of Think Like A Monk and host of the On Purpose Podcast "What sets Dr. Ramani apart is her valuable emphasis on healing from the damaging effects of a narcissist''s destructive behavior. With a direct and compassionate approach, she reminds us that it is possible to heal. As always, Dr. Ramani gives comfort and validation to the ''lions''. It''s Not You is a gift." -Jenifer Faison, host of the Betrayal podcast "Dr. Ramani is one of the most respected experts on healing and narcissism. In this important book, I''m grateful she includes the often unseen world of grief and narcissism. She gives deep insights and sound advice on the experience of grief. It''s Not You is a must read." -David Kessler, author of Finding Meaning " It''s Not You is, simply put, brilliant. In straightforward, clear language, Dr. Ramani has created a framework for deeply understanding the complexities of, and healing from, this most insidious form of abuse. She challenges misconceptions and glaring gaps in knowledge of current paradigms in traditional psychology and with compassion and refreshing candor, guides us through hell--and back to our true selves." -Mark Vicente, NXIVM whistleblower and director of Empathy Not Included
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