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Becoming Attached : First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love by Robert Karen (2024, Trade Paperback)

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"Love is the good we all search for, and yet we have different conceptions (and misconceptions) about what it is, ambivalence about how close we want to get to it, doubts about whether we can achieve it or even deserve it.

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PublisherOxford University Press, Incorporated

ISBN-100199398798

ISBN-139780199398799

eBay Product ID (ePID)11057232241

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Edition2

Book TitleBecoming Attached : First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love

Number of Pages824 Pages

LanguageEnglish

Publication Year2024

TopicDevelopmental / Child, General, Clinical Psychology, Developmental / General

GenrePsychology

AuthorRobert Karen

FormatTrade Paperback

Dimensions

Item Height2.6 in

Item Weight41.7 Oz

Item Length9.3 in

Item Width6.5 in

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Intended AudienceTrade

LCCN2023-004727

Dewey Edition21

Dewey Decimal306.874/3

Table Of ContentIntroduction: Does Love Matter? PART I WHAT DO CHILDREN NEED? 1. Mother Love: Worst Case Scenarios 2. Enter Bowlby: The Search for a Theory of Relatedness 3. Bowlby and Klein: Reality vs. Fantasy 4. Psychopaths in the Making: Forty-four Juvenile Thieves 5. Call to Arms: Bowlby's World Health Report 6. First Battlefield: "A Two-Year Old Goes to Hospital" 7. Of Goslings and Babies: The Birth of Attachment Theory 8. "What's the Use to Psychoanalyze a Goose?" Turmoil, Hostility, Debate 9. Monkey Love: Warm, Secure, Continuous PART II BREAKTHROUGH: THE ASSESSMENT OF PARENTING STYLE 10. Ainsworth in Uganda 11. The Strange Situation 12. Pay-off! Ainsworth's Revolution PART III THE FATE OF EARLY ATTACHMENTS 13. The Minnesota Studies: Parenting Style and Personality Development 14. The Mother, the Father, and the Outside World 15. Structures of the Mind: Building a Model of Human Connection 16. The Black Box Reopened: Mary Main's Berkeley Studies 17. Why Do We Turn Out Like Them? The Residue of Our Parents PART IV GIVE PARENTS A BREAK! NATURE-NURTURE ERUPTS ANEW 18. Born that Way? Stella Chess and the Difficult Child 19. The Rush to Debunk: A New Generation of Critics 20. The Fight Over the First Year 21. Renaissance of Biological Determinism: The Twin Studies 22. A Waning of the Extremes 23. Attachment Resurgent 24. Academia at Its Worst: The Infant Daycare Wars PART V THE HOLDING ENVIRONMENT 25. An Athens of Infancy: The Baby Bowlby Left Behind 26. Being Oneself with Others: Winnicott's True Self 27. Life as It Is: Mourning, Integration, and Repair 28. Astonishing Attunements: Mothers and Infants in Slow Motion 29. The Older Baby and the Family Drama: Video Studies, Part Two 30. And Now for Something Entirely Different: The Neurobiology of Love 31. The Regulation of Self and Other: In Daily Life and the Brawls of Science 32. The Reflective Parent: Seeding the Examined Life PART VI FAULT LINES AND REPAIRS: THE INNER LIVES OF ANXIOUSLY ATTACHED CHILDREN 33. Fear, Guilt, and Shame: Stalkers of the Insecure Self 34. They Are Leaning out for Love: Survival Strategies of Insecurely Attached Children and the Prospects for Change PART VII SECURE BASE AND INSECURE BASE: A THERAPIST CONSIDERS ADULT ATTACHMENT 35. Love and Reliance: The Secure Self in Adulthood 36. Repetition: Why People Don't Change 37. All the Discomforts of Home: The Insecure Base 38. Beckoning: The Fight for the Secure Self PART VIII THE ODYSSEY OF AN IDEA 39. Avoidant Society 40. Looking Back: Bowlby and Ainsworth

SynopsisThis expanded and fully updated edition of Becoming Attached tells the story of one of the great undertakings of modern psychology: the hundred-year quest to understand the nature of the child and the components of good-enough care. Psychologist and journalist Robert Karen chronicles the origin and history of a groundbreaking idea - attachment theory - and its resounding impact on the fields of developmental psychology, psychiatry, and psychoanalysis., The tumultuous history of the attachment idea---and the pioneers who fought for it. Now in a fully expanded and updated 30th anniversary edition. Robert Karen's Becoming Attached tells the story of one of the great undertakings of modern psychology: the hundred-year quest to understand what children need and what constitutes good-enough parenting. A century ago, most childcare experts were clueless about love and its role in child development. Behaviorists warned against spoiling children with too much affection ("Never hug and kiss them, never let them sit in your lap"), while geneticists argued that parental love is irrelevant because genes alone determine who we are. Into this confusion stepped John Bowlby, the headstrong British psychoanalyst whose decades-long partnership with American psychologist Mary Ainsworth would revolutionize child development and childcare. In recent decades attachment research has exploded worldwide, as evidence for the benefits of secure attachment grow. Numerous studies attest to attachment's critical role in emotion regulation, self-confidence, sensitivity, empathy, the capacity to forgive, and much else. Crucial questions about child rearing can now be answered. Are babies able to handle separations from the mother? What are the risks of daycare for children under one, and what can parents do to manage those risks? How essential is the sensitivity, reliability, self-awareness, and joyfulness of parental love? And how does the nature of parental love change as the child grows older? What do live fMRI studies reveal about the neural patterns of the loving parent, which also appear in the adoring infant and in adult romance? What have we learned about parental psychology, good and bad, and how it works its way into the child? How important is the perfectly (or poorly) synchronized play between parent and baby, invisible until the advent of slow-motion video? Karen tells a dramatic story of scientists at work and at war, what happens to research when politics and gender roles get involved, and how the nature-nurture debate shifts with the discovery that childhood experience can alter the expression of genes? Karen shares personal anecdotes drawn from the lives of leading attachment researchers, from his patients, and from his own experience to illuminate attachment themes. He argues that we all have elements of security and insecurity in our psyches, with the insecure self readily activated in intimate relationships. He writes: "When conflicts arise, the insecure self threatens to commandeer our being, leading us, as though through quicksand, into a repetition of old patterns." And, yet, Karen contends, attachment status can change, and what he calls "seeking one's secure self" is an essential quest of mature adulthood. For many readers Becoming Attached will be not just a voyage of discovery in child development and its pertinence to adult life, but a voyage of personal discovery as well; for it is almost impossible to read this material without reflecting on one's own life as a child, a parent, and an intimate partner in love or marriage.

LC Classification NumberBF720.M68K37 2023