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- Condition
- Very Good
- Seller Notes
- “Light wear, a marker line on top”
- Product Type
- Paperback
- Subject
- Relationships
- ISBN
- 9781572301313
- Book Title
- Lost Art of Listening : How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships
- Publisher
- Guilford Publications
- Item Length
- 8.9 in
- Publication Year
- 1996
- Format
- Trade Paperback
- Language
- English
- Item Height
- 0.7 in
- Genre
- Language Arts & Disciplines, Psychology
- Topic
- Communication Studies, General, Interpersonal Relations
- Item Weight
- 13 Oz
- Item Width
- 5.9 in
- Number of Pages
- 251 Pages
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Publisher
Guilford Publications
ISBN-10
1572301317
ISBN-13
9781572301313
eBay Product ID (ePID)
679309
Product Key Features
Book Title
Lost Art of Listening : How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships
Number of Pages
251 Pages
Language
English
Topic
Communication Studies, General, Interpersonal Relations
Publication Year
1996
Genre
Language Arts & Disciplines, Psychology
Format
Trade Paperback
Dimensions
Item Height
0.7 in
Item Weight
13 Oz
Item Length
8.9 in
Item Width
5.9 in
Additional Product Features
Intended Audience
Trade
LCCN
94-038111
Reviews
"I'm using this book as a text because it clearly demonstrates the personal issues which get in the way of really focusing on the person and message of the other(s). Such focus leads to the listening which is the center of aspects of ministry. I have heard students say that it puts communication in popular, i.e., understandable terms and that they saw themselves in it." --Leland Elhard, PhD, Department of Pastoral Theology, Trinity Lutheran Seminary "Lily Tomlin once advised that we 'listen with an intensity that most people save for talking.' Michael Nichols, inThe Lost Art of Listeningtells us how. This is a very special book which distills years of clinical wisdom into practical advice about improving our most important relationships and, ultimately, who we are. Through the lens of the importance to us all of being heard, Dr. Nichols tells us how genuine listening can prevent broken connections and dried up relationships. Following his own advice, he presents clear, familiar, and relevant examples of real life family problems and frustrations, in a way that leaves us open to accepting and using his messages. He stresses the need to avoid letting anger, anxiety, and fear of being hurt impede our ability to listen, and tells stories that show us how to manage everything from criticism, to reticence and intrusiveness. Simultaneously, he provides clues for improving self esteem and decreasing emotional reactivity. This is more than a good book, it is a vital manual for any of us who would either like to feel good about our relationships or avoid dying before the end of our lives." --Carol M. Anderson, PhD, Professor of Psychiatry, University of Pittsburgh Medical Center "A beautifully written, articulate guide to listening, this book is an antidote to the sense of diminishment experienced by so many as our culture short-circuits our need for interchange with others. Filled with personal stories from his life and the lives of patients, Nichols offers clarification of the listening process between friends, with family, in work situations, and in intimate relationships. The Lost Art of Listening is a pleasure to read and a valuable tool for therapists."--Marion F. Solomon, PhD, Author ofNarcissism and Intimacy: Love and Marriage in An Age of ConfusionandLean On Me: The Power of Positive Dependency in Intimate Relationships "Michael P. Nichols writes as if he is speaking directly to us--and he speaks in a way that makes us not only able, but eager, to listen. What happens between him and his readers embodies key elements of what he wants us to learn about listening. Along the way, we learn about much more."--Thelma Jean Goodrich, PhD, Family Institute of Westchester, "I'm using this book as a text because it clearly demonstrates the personal issues which get in the way of really focusing on the person and message of the other(s). Such focus leads to the listening which is the center of aspects of ministry. I have heard students say that it puts communication in popular, i.e., understandable terms and that they saw themselves in it." --Leland Elhard, PhD, Department of Pastoral Theology, Trinity Lutheran Seminary "Lily Tomlin once advised that we 'listen with an intensity that most people save for talking.' Michael Nichols, inThe Lost Art of Listeningtells us how. This is a very special book which distills years of clinical wisdom into practical advice about improving our most important relationships and, ultimately, who we are. Through the lens of the importance to us all of being heard, Dr. Nichols tells us how genuine listening can prevent broken connections and dried up relationships. Following his own advice, he presents clear, familiar, and relevant examples of real life family problems and frustrations, in a way that leaves us open to accepting and using his messages. He stresses the need to avoid letting anger, anxiety, and fear of being hurt impede our ability to listen, and tells stories that show us how to manage everything from criticism, to reticence and intrusiveness. Simultaneously, he provides clues for improving self esteem and decreasing emotional reactivity. This is more than a good book, it is a vital manual for any of us who would either like to feel good about our relationships or avoid dying before the end of our lives." --Carol M. Anderson, PhD, Professor of Psychiatry, University of Pittsburgh Medical Center "A beautifully written, articulate guide to listening, this book is an antidote to the sense of diminishment experienced by so many as our culture short-circuits our need for interchange with others. Filled with personal stories from his life and the lives of patients, Nichols offers clarification of the listening process between friends, with family, in work situations, and in intimate relationships. The Lost Art of Listening is a pleasure to read and a valuable tool for therapists."--Marion F. Solomon, PhD, Author of Narcissism and Intimacy: Love and Marriage in An Age of ConfusionandLean On Me: The Power of Positive Dependency in Intimate Relationships "Michael P. Nichols writes as if he is speaking directly to us--and he speaks in a way that makes us not only able, but eager, to listen. What happens between him and his readers embodies key elements of what he wants us to learn about listening. Along the way, we learn about much more."--Thelma Jean Goodrich, PhD, Family Institute of Westchester, "What is true listening and why, the author asks, has it become a near-rarity in modern life? Nichols shows how to utilize this 'art by which we use empathy to reach the space across us' to improve and repair relationships with spouses, lovers, relatives, children, friends, and colleagues, and even how to boost one's own 'listenability.' He also explains what listening isn't, explaining why people don't listen and listing obstacles to listening (especially defensiveness owing to emotional overreaction). Humor, true life examples and simple exercises make this a practical and even entertaining self-help guide..." --Publishers Weekly "Written in a readable, clear style, the topic of listening is covered extensively...Recommended for undergraduates, professionals in counseling, and the general public." --Choice "An intriguing survey of the art of listening and its role in communication." --The Bookwatch "The author's style, vignettes, insights and presentation provide encouragement to professionals and laymen alike: Sensitive listening skills can be improved and developed to maximize one's relationships and self-awareness. This book is worthy of consideration for all who search for the joy and rewards of reciprocal understanding....is an excellent contribution to the field of communication." --The Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease "An important review of the many basic principles of listening that most of us have learned at one point or another in our lifetimes and then quickly forgotten...One of the strengths of this book is Nichol's ability to speak directly to the reader....Although this book fits into the category of a 'self-help' book it has definite implications for therapists. Throughout the book Nichols gives examples of how the principles he discusses apply to therapy and the therapist." --Journal of Family Psychotherapy "Nichols simply, yet insightfully, explains why listening is the fundamental psychotherapeutic skill....Nichols includes many counseling elements into his rendition of the elements of listening. This book serves as a wake-up call to remind professionals that listening is difficult and should not be an assumed skill....Useful to both novice and experienced psychotherapy professionals....Powerful and informative." --Contemporary Psychology "The message is an encouraging one--we can learn to understand each other and improve our relationships. This book should sell well among the general public and the paperback edition will doubtless be in most supermarkets and airport kiosks." --Child and Family Behavior Therapy "This is a good book. It should be in church libraries. And preachers should read it because some of them are hard to listen to. The book tells why and what they can do about it." --Provident Book Finder, "I'm using this book as a text because it clearly demonstrates the personal issues which get in the way of really focusing on the person and message of the other(s). Such focus leads to the listening which is the center of aspects of ministry. I have heard students say that it puts communication in popular, i.e., understandable terms and that they saw themselves in it." --Leland Elhard, PhD, Department of Pastoral Theology, Trinity Lutheran Seminary "Lily Tomlin once advised that we 'listen with an intensity that most people save for talking.' Michael Nichols, in The Lost Art of Listening tells us how. This is a very special book which distills years of clinical wisdom into practical advice about improving our most important relationships and, ultimately, who we are. Through the lens of the importance to us all of being heard, Dr. Nichols tells us how genuine listening can prevent broken connections and dried up relationships. Following his own advice, he presents clear, familiar, and relevant examples of real life family problems and frustrations, in a way that leaves us open to accepting and using his messages. He stresses the need to avoid letting anger, anxiety, and fear of being hurt impede our ability to listen, and tells stories that show us how to manage everything from criticism, to reticence and intrusiveness. Simultaneously, he provides clues for improving self esteem and decreasing emotional reactivity. This is more than a good book, it is a vital manual for any of us who would either like to feel good about our relationships or avoid dying before the end of our lives." --Carol M. Anderson, PhD, Professor of Psychiatry, University of Pittsburgh Medical Center "A beautifully written, articulate guide to listening, this book is an antidote to the sense of diminishment experienced by so many as our culture short-circuits our need for interchange with others. Filled with personal stories from his life and the lives of patients, Nichols offers clarification of the listening process between friends, with family, in work situations, and in intimate relationships. The Lost Art of Listening is a pleasure to read and a valuable tool for therapists."--Marion F. Solomon, PhD, Author of Narcissism and Intimacy: Love and Marriage in An Age of Confusion and Lean On Me: The Power of Positive Dependency in Intimate Relationships "Michael P. Nichols writes as if he is speaking directly to us--and he speaks in a way that makes us not only able, but eager, to listen. What happens between him and his readers embodies key elements of what he wants us to learn about listening. Along the way, we learn about much more."--Thelma Jean Goodrich, PhD, Family Institute of Westchester
TitleLeading
The
Dewey Edition
22
Dewey Decimal
153.6/8
Table Of Content
Introduction. Part I: Yearning to be Understood. Why Listening Is So Important. "Did You Hear What I Said?" How Listening Shapes Us and Connects Us to Each Other. "Thanks for Listening". How Communication Breaks Down. "Why Won't You Listen to Me?" Part II: The Real Reasons People Don't Listen. The Heart of Listening: The Struggle to Suspend Our Own Needs. "When Is It My Turn?" How Hidden Assumptions Prejudice Listening. "You Hear Only What You Want to Hear!" How Emotionality Makes Us Defensive. "Why Do You Always Overreact!" Part III: Getting Through to Each Other . How to Let Go of Your Own Needs and Listen. "Take Your Time-I'm Listening". Empathy Begins with Openness. "I Never Knew You Felt That Way". How to Defuse Emotional Reactivity. "I Can See This Is Really Upsetting You." Part IV: Listening in Context. Listening Between Intimate Partners. "We Never Seem to Talk Anymore." How to Listen and Be Heard within the Family. "Nobody Around Here Ever Listens to Me!" Being Able to Hear Friends and Colleagues. "I Knew You'd Understand." Epilogue.
Synopsis
Why do we often feel cut off when speaking to the people closest to us family members, friends, or colleagues? What is it that keeps so many of us from really listening? Michael P. Nichols answers these questions and more in this thoughtful, witty, and helpful look at the reasons people don't hear one another. His book, a guide to the secrets of listening and being listened to, is filled with vivid examples that clearly demonstrate easy-to-learn techniques for becoming a better listener. He also illustrates how empathic listening enables us to break through misunderstandings and conflict and to transform our personal and professional relationships.
LC Classification Number
BF323.L5N53 1995
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