Table Of ContentAcknowledgments Contributors Preface PART ONE: Examining the Dominant Model Chapter 1 Introduction: What's the Problem?, Phyllis R. Silverman and Dennis Klass PART TWO: Setting the Stage Chapter 2 Broken Hearts or Broken Bonds?, Margaret Stroebe, Mary Gergen, Kenneth Gergen and Wolfgang Stroebe Chapter 3 Grief That Does Not End, Paul C. Rosenblatt Chapter 4 Grief in an Eastern Culture: Japanese Ancestor Worship,Dennis Klass PART THREE: Bereaved Child Chapter 5 Children's Construction of Their Dead Parents, Phyllis R. Silverman and Steven L. Nickman Chapter 6 Bereaved Children's Changing Relationships with the Deceased, Claude L. Normand, Phyllis R. Silverman and Steven L. Nickman Chapter 7 Remembering a Parent Who Has Died: A Developmental Perspective, Betty C. Buchsbaum Chapter 8 Relationship and Heritage: Manifestations of Ongoing Attachment Following Father Death, Kirsten Tyson-Rawson PART FOUR: Spousal Bereavement Chapter 9 Widowhood and Husband Sanctification, Helena Znaniecka Lopata Chapter 10 Remarriage of Widowed Persons: A Triadic Relationship, Miriam S. Moss and Sidney Z. Moss Chapter 11 Memories of the Death and Life of a Spouse: The Role of Images and Sense of Presence in Grief, Roberta Dew Conant PART FIVE: Parental Bereavement Chapter 12 The Deceased Child in the Psychic and Social Worlds of Bereaved Parents During the Resolution of Grief, Dennis Klass Chapter 13 The Wounded Family: Bereaved Parents and the Impact of Adult Child Loss, Simon Shimshon Rubin PART SIX: Bereaved Siblings Chapter 14 Basic Constructs of a Theory of Adolescent Sibling Bereavement, Nancy Hogan and Lydia DeSantis PART SEVEN: Adoptee Losses Chapter 15 Retroactive Loss in Adopted Persons, Steven Nickman Chapter 16 Grief and the Birth Origin Fantasies of Adopted Women, Susan Miller-Havens PART EIGHT: Meanings and Implications Chapter 17 Grief and the Role of the Inner Representation of the Deceased, Samuel J. Marwit and Dennis Klass Chapter 18 Attachment and the Reactions of Bereaved College Students: A Longitudinal Study, David E. Balk Chapter 19 Dilemmas in Identification for the Post-Nazi Generation: "My Good Father Was a Bad Man?", Lora Heims Tessman PART NINE: Conclusion Chapter 20 Concluding Thoughts, Phyllis R. Silverman and Steven L. Nickman Index
SynopsisMany modern theories hold that the function of grief and mourning is to cut bonds with the deceased, freeing the survivor to develop new relationships. This work, however, argues that proper resolution of grief should enable one to develop and, First published in 1996. This new book gives voice to an emerging consensus among bereavement scholars that our understanding of the grief process needs to be expanded. The dominant 20th century model holds that the function of grief and mourning is to cut bonds with the deceased, thereby freeing the survivor to reinvest in new relationships in the present. Pathological grief has been defined in terms of holding on to the deceased. Close examination reveals that this model is based more on the cultural values of modernity than on any substantial data of what people actually do. Presenting data from several populations, 22 authors - among the most respected in their fields - demonstrate that the health resolution of grief enables one to maintain a continuing bond with the deceased. Despite cultural disapproval and lack of validation by professionals, survivors find places for the dead in their on-going lives and even in their communities. Such bonds are not denial: the deceased can provide resources for enriched functioning in the present. Chapters examine widows and widowers, bereaved children, parents and siblings, and a population previously excluded from bereavement research: adoptees and their birth parents. Bereavement in Japanese culture is also discussed, as are meanings and implications of this new model of grief. Opening new areas of research and scholarly dialogue, this work provides the basis for significant developments in clinical practice in the field.