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SynopsisSecrets You Keep from Yourself offers an eye-opening exploration of the curious human abilities for self-deception and self-sabotage. You have the capacity to focus your attention as well as distract yourself, embrace the best in life as well as undermine cherished goals, and act with self-confidence as well as sink into worry or guilt. This book will help you discover what makes you pursue one course over the other, and it will help you choose self-enhancing paths rather than self-defeating ones. Self-sabotage can take many forms: excessive denial, wishful thinking, procrastination, impulsive decisions, escapism, and addictive behavior. You may overidealize situations or people, building expectations that will house only disappointment. At the other extreme, you may judge others critically or sell yourself short. You may overreact to everyday situations or feel defensive around loved ones. Or you may box yourself in with perfectionism or approval-seeking. The common factor when you don't do what's good for you is that consciously or unconsciously you are keeping something from yourself. Keeping secrets from yourself is akin to keeping a beach ball submerged. It requires constant energy. Recognize your secrets and you free tremendous energy. Self-sabotage is a universal habit reinforced by biology, society, and individual upbringing, writes accomplished psychotherapist Dan Neuharth. Yet this habit can be broken, a goal that Dr. Neuharth shows you how to accomplish in a clear, step-by-step fashion. Written in a compassionate and validating tone, this book is packed with powerful techniques to help you conquer the fears that have stopped you in the past and act now in your own best interests, even when tempted to do otherwise. You'll learn how to make peace with lingering regret over past self-defeats, bring more of yourself to each present moment, and craft a future of greater contentment and sense of purpose. Book jacket., This insightful guide is an exploration of how and why people undermine their happiness and lose touch with their "best" selves. Counterproductive self-deception, a universal behavior, is a habit that can be broken. People keep themselves from having what they want, a phenomenon known as "self-handicapping."Offering poignant examples, innovative tools, and a compassionate perspective, Dan Neuharth reveals how to vanquish self-imposed roadblocks and avoid unnecessary losses in order to embrace and share the best in oneself.