BUY 3, GET 1 FREE (add 4 to cart)See all eligible items and terms

You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up: A Love Story - Paperback - VERY GOOD

US $4.97
Condition:
Very Good
2 available
Breathe easy. Free shipping and returns.
Shipping:
Free USPS Media MailTM.
Located in: Montgomery, Illinois, United States
Delivery:
Estimated between Fri, Aug 15 and Thu, Aug 21 to 94104
Delivery time is estimated using our proprietary method which is based on the buyer's proximity to the item location, the shipping service selected, the seller's shipping history, and other factors. Delivery times may vary, especially during peak periods.
Returns:
30 days returns. Seller pays for return shipping.
Payments:
       Diners Club
Earn up to 5x points when you use your eBay Mastercard®. Learn moreabout earning points with eBay Mastercard

Shop with confidence

eBay Money Back Guarantee
Get the item you ordered or your money back. Learn moreeBay Money Back Guarantee - opens new window or tab
Seller assumes all responsibility for this listing.
eBay item number:266770178422
Last updated on Aug 05, 2025 08:25:05 PDTView all revisionsView all revisions

Item specifics

Condition
Very Good: A book that does not look new and has been read but is in excellent condition. No obvious ...
Brand
Unbranded
MPN
Does not apply
ISBN
9780307463784
Book Title
You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up : a Love Story
Publisher
Crown Publishing Group, T.H.E.
Item Length
8 in
Publication Year
2011
Format
Trade Paperback
Language
English
Item Height
0.6 in
Author
Annabelle Gurwitch, Jeff Kahn
Genre
Family & Relationships, Social Science, Biography & Autobiography, Humor
Topic
Marriage & Long-Term Relationships, Parenting / General, Personal Memoirs, General, Topic / Marriage & Family, Sociology / Marriage & Family
Item Weight
7.4 Oz
Item Width
5.3 in
Number of Pages
272 Pages
Category

About this product

Product Identifiers

Publisher
Crown Publishing Group, T.H.E.
ISBN-10
0307463788
ISBN-13
9780307463784
eBay Product ID (ePID)
92939135

Product Key Features

Book Title
You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up : a Love Story
Number of Pages
272 Pages
Language
English
Publication Year
2011
Topic
Marriage & Long-Term Relationships, Parenting / General, Personal Memoirs, General, Topic / Marriage & Family, Sociology / Marriage & Family
Genre
Family & Relationships, Social Science, Biography & Autobiography, Humor
Author
Annabelle Gurwitch, Jeff Kahn
Format
Trade Paperback

Dimensions

Item Height
0.6 in
Item Weight
7.4 Oz
Item Length
8 in
Item Width
5.3 in

Additional Product Features

Intended Audience
Trade
Reviews
"This book is a must-read for couples and singles alike. Finally, a married couple that doesn't hide behind such tedious traits as personal loyalty, good taste, and an overall sense of decorum. You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Uptells people what marriage is really like!"-Liz Tucillo, co-author of  He's Just Not That IntoYou and author ofHow to Be Single   "So funny because it is so accurate. Kahn and Gurwitch illuminate the insanity of marriage.  They make you want to embrace your spouse for the same reason you want to strangle them."-Ben Stiller   "Although after eleven and a half years of pure, uninterrupted marital bliss I don't relate at all to the subject matter, I still found Jeff and Annabelle's book to be hilarious."-Judd Apatow   "As someone who has never married or ever understood why anyone would,would, I feel I can say with authority that this is the finest, funniest, most insightful book I've ever read about a subject I'm completely unqualified to comment about."-Bill Maher   "The far right believes that marriage should only be one man plus one woman. But they are oh so wrong. Marriage should only be between two funny people, and Jeff and Annabelle are the shining examples of this new marriage movement."-Carol Leifer   "Damn, marriage isn't supposed to be this much fun! If anyone is going to save marriage, it won't be James Dobson-it'll be Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn."-Barbara Ehrenreich, author ofNickel and Dimed   "Oh, now I get it. This whole sham of a marriage was not just for tax purposes, it was also to write and sell this immediately engaging book! I remember when Jeff first told me about Annabelle and the hazy, humid thermal cloud she wrapped his head in. I thought he was nuts. Turns out I was right (see pages 1250). After reading this book, I feel sorry for both of them now. And that's quite an accomplishment."-David Cross, author ofI Drink for a Reason   "He said tomato, she said shut up, and I took a Vicodin to ease the pain from laughing so hard." -Sandra Tsing Loh, author ofMother on FireandA Year in Van Nuys "We're just not that into us."--Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn, "You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up: A Love Story shows how hectic, hard and hilarious married life can be. Spanning friendship, courtship, marriage and parenthood, Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn's "he said/she said" memoir at times reads like a mix of couples therapy and "Real World" confessionals for grown-ups. Only funnier and heavier."-The Washington Post "This book is a must-read for couples and singles alike. Finally, a married couple that doesn't hide behind such tedious traits as personal loyalty, good taste, and an overall sense of decorum. You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Uptells people what marriage is really like!"-Liz Tucillo, co-author of  He's Just Not That IntoYou and author ofHow to Be Single   "So funny because it is so accurate. Kahn and Gurwitch illuminate the insanity of marriage.  They make you want to embrace your spouse for the same reason you want to strangle them."-Ben Stiller   "Although after eleven and a half years of pure, uninterrupted marital bliss I don't relate at all to the subject matter, I still found Jeff and Annabelle's book to be hilarious."-Judd Apatow   "As someone who has never married or ever understood why anyone would,would, I feel I can say with authority that this is the finest, funniest, most insightful book I've ever read about a subject I'm completely unqualified to comment about."-Bill Maher   "The far right believes that marriage should only be one man plus one woman. But they are oh so wrong. Marriage should only be between two funny people, and Jeff and Annabelle are the shining examples of this new marriage movement."-Carol Leifer   "Damn, marriage isn't supposed to be this much fun! If anyone is going to save marriage, it won't be James Dobson-it'll be Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn."-Barbara Ehrenreich, author ofNickel and Dimed   "Oh, now I get it. This whole sham of a marriage was not just for tax purposes, it was also to write and sell this immediately engaging book! I remember when Jeff first told me about Annabelle and the hazy, humid thermal cloud she wrapped his head in. I thought he was nuts. Turns out I was right (see pages 1250). After reading this book, I feel sorry for both of them now. And that's quite an accomplishment."-David Cross, author ofI Drink for a Reason   "He said tomato, she said shut up, and I took a Vicodin to ease the pain from laughing so hard." -Sandra Tsing Loh, author ofMother on FireandA Year in Van Nuys "We're just not that into us."--Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn, "You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up: A Love Story shows how hectic, hard and hilarious married life can be. Spanning friendship, courtship, marriage and parenthood, Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn's "he said/she said" memoir at times reads like a mix of couples therapy and "Real World" confessionals for grown-ups. Only funnier and heavier."--The Washington Post "This book is a must-read for couples and singles alike. Finally, a married couple that doesn't hide behind such tedious traits as personal loyalty, good taste, and an overall sense of decorum. You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up tells people what marriage is really like!"--Liz Tucillo, co-author of He's Just Not That Into You and author of How to Be Single "So funny because it is so accurate. Kahn and Gurwitch illuminate the insanity of marriage. They make you want to embrace your spouse for the same reason you want to strangle them."--Ben Stiller "Although after eleven and a half years of pure, uninterrupted marital bliss I don't relate at all to the subject matter, I still found Jeff and Annabelle's book to be hilarious."--Judd Apatow "As someone who has never married or ever understood why anyone would,would, I feel I can say with authority that this is the finest, funniest, most insightful book I've ever read about a subject I'm completely unqualified to comment about."--Bill Maher "The far right believes that marriage should only be one man plus one woman. But they are oh so wrong. Marriage should only be between two funny people, and Jeff and Annabelle are the shining examples of this new marriage movement."--Carol Leifer "Damn, marriage isn't supposed to be this much fun! If anyone is going to save marriage, it won't be James Dobson--it'll be Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn."--Barbara Ehrenreich, author of Nickel and Dimed "Oh, now I get it. This whole sham of a marriage was not just for tax purposes, it was also to write and sell this immediately engaging book! I remember when Jeff first told me about Annabelle and the hazy, humid thermal cloud she wrapped his head in. I thought he was nuts. Turns out I was right (see pages 1-250). After reading this book, I feel sorry for both of them now. And that's quite an accomplishment."--David Cross, author of I Drink for a Reason "He said tomato, she said shut up, and I took a Vicodin to ease the pain from laughing so hard." --Sandra Tsing Loh, author of Mother on Fire and A Year in Van Nuys "We're just not that into us."--Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn, "You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up: A Love Story shows how hectic, hard and hilarious married life can be. Spanning friendship, courtship, marriage and parenthood, Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn's "he said/she said" memoir at times reads like a mix of couples therapy and "Real World" confessionals for grown-ups. Only funnier and heavier."-The Washington Post "This book is a must-read for couples and singles alike. Finally, a married couple that doesn't hide behind such tedious traits as personal loyalty, good taste, and an overall sense of decorum.  You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up tells people what marriage is really like!"-Liz Tucillo, co-author of   He's Just Not That Into You and author of How to Be Single   "So funny because it is so accurate. Kahn and Gurwitch illuminate the insanity of marriage.  They make you want to embrace your spouse for the same reason you want to strangle them."-Ben Stiller   "Although after eleven and a half years of pure, uninterrupted marital bliss I don't relate at all to the subject matter, I still found Jeff and Annabelle's book to be hilarious."-Judd Apatow   "As someone who has never married or ever understood why anyone would,would, I feel I can say with authority that this is the finest, funniest, most insightful book I've ever read about a subject I'm completely unqualified to comment about."-Bill Maher   "The far right believes that marriage should only be one man plus one woman. But they are oh so wrong. Marriage should only be between two funny people, and Jeff and Annabelle are the shining examples of this new marriage movement."-Carol Leifer   "Damn, marriage isn't supposed to be this much fun! If anyone is going to save marriage, it won't be James Dobson-it'll be Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn."-Barbara Ehrenreich, author of Nickel and Dimed   "Oh, now I get it. This whole sham of a marriage was not just for tax purposes, it was also to write and sell this immediately engaging book! I remember when Jeff first told me about Annabelle and the hazy, humid thermal cloud she wrapped his head in. I thought he was nuts. Turns out I was right (see pages 1250). After reading this book, I feel sorry for both of them now. And that's quite an accomplishment."-David Cross, author of I Drink for a Reason   "He said tomato, she said shut up, and I took a Vicodin to ease the pain from laughing so hard." -Sandra Tsing Loh, author of Mother on Fire and A Year in Van Nuys "We're just not that into us."--Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn From the Hardcover edition.
Synopsis
In this hilarious and ultimately moving memoir, comedians and real-life married couple Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn prove that in marriage, all you need is love-and a healthy dose of complaining, codependence, and pinot noir. After thirteen years of being married, Annabelle and Jeff have found "We're just not that into us." Instead of giving up, they've held their relationship together by ignoring conventional wisdom and fostering a lack of intimacy, by using parenting as a competitive sport, and by dropping out of couples therapy. The he-said/she-said chronicle of their intense but loving marriage includes an unsentimental account of the medical odyssey that their family embarked upon after their infant son was diagnosed with VACTERL, a very rare series of birth defects. Annabelle and Jeff's unforgivingly raw, uproariously funny story is sure to strike both laughter and terror in the hearts of all couples (not to mention every single man or woman who is contemplating the connubial state). Serving up equal parts sincerity and cynicism, You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up is a laugh-out-loud must-read for everyone who has come to realize that being "in love" can only get you so far. On Cohabitation He says- "Within days of Annabelle's arrival, I became very aware that she demanded solitude and had the housekeeping habits of a feral animal." She says- "The guy had some sort of nudity radar. When I would take my clothes off for even a second, Jeff would be in front of me cheering as if he'd scored box seats at Fenway Park." On Sex He says- "I want to have sex every day, but Annabelle only wants to do it once a week. So we compromise- we have sex once a week." She says- "Jeff says talking about money before you have sex is a turnoff, but it's only a turnoff if you're talking about not having money. Talking about money before you have sex when you have money is actually a turn-on ." On Pregnancy He says- "For God's sake, all I wanted to do was have sex without a condom for a little while; now we were moments from bringing a new life into the world!" She says- "My ass was expanding so fast it was like a Starbucks franchise. On every corner of my ass there was a new branch of ass opening up.", In this hilarious and ultimately moving memoir, comedians and real-life married couple Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn prove that in marriage, all you need is love--and a healthy dose of complaining, codependence, and pinot noir. After thirteen years of being married, Annabelle and Jeff have found "We're just not that into us." Instead of giving up, they've held their relationship together by ignoring conventional wisdom and fostering a lack of intimacy, by using parenting as a competitive sport, and by dropping out of couples therapy. The he-said/she-said chronicle of their intense but loving marriage includes an unsentimental account of the medical odyssey that their family embarked upon after their infant son was diagnosed with VACTERL, a very rare series of birth defects. Annabelle and Jeff's unforgivingly raw, uproariously funny story is sure to strike both laughter and terror in the hearts of all couples (not to mention every single man or woman who is contemplating the connubial state). Serving up equal parts sincerity and cynicism, You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up is a laugh-out-loud must-read for everyone who has come to realize that being "in love" can only get you so far. On Cohabitation He says: "Within days of Annabelle's arrival, I became very aware that she demanded solitude and had the housekeeping habits of a feral animal." She says: "The guy had some sort of nudity radar. When I would take my clothes off for even a second, Jeff would be in front of me cheering as if he'd scored box seats at Fenway Park." On Sex He says: "I want to have sex every day, but Annabelle only wants to do it once a week. So we compromise: we have sex once a week." She says: "Jeff says talking about money before you have sex is a turnoff, but it's only a turnoff if you're talking about not having money. Talking about money before you have sex when you have money is actually a turn-on ." On Pregnancy He says: "For God's sake, all I wanted to do was have sex without a condom for a little while; now we were moments from bringing a new life into the world " She says: "My ass was expanding so fast it was like a Starbucks franchise. On every corner of my ass there was a new branch of ass opening up."

Item description from the seller

About this seller

SecondSalecom

98.3% positive feedback32.8M items sold

Joined Aug 2002
Usually responds within 24 hours
The lowest price on hundreds of thousands of used items!

Detailed seller ratings

Average for the last 12 months
Accurate description
4.8
Reasonable shipping cost
5.0
Shipping speed
5.0
Communication
5.0

Seller feedback (7,769,973)

All ratings
Positive
Neutral
Negative
  • 0***a (548)- Feedback left by buyer.
    Past month
    Verified purchase
    This item arrived as described, fast and packaged very well . I only received half of my order on one day so I contacted the seller who and with fast and a great help. I received the rest of my order a few days later due to the carrier missing the third box in his vehicle. I am a very happy customer who has done business with in the past multiple time and will do business with again in the future. I trust and like this seller. You will be happy with the value and condition of your purchase.
  • u***a (250)- Feedback left by buyer.
    Past month
    Verified purchase
    I have purchased from them many times. This time, and on occasion I have had an issue with the product, but the seller is graceful about correcting errors. They do a huge volume and sometimes have sent the wrong book or one of their multiples that does not match the description. With swift communication, the seller always resolves the issue. The shipping speed & packaging is excellent. I will continue buying from this seller!
  • c***m (425)- Feedback left by buyer.
    Past 6 months
    Verified purchase
    WOW!; I cannot believe this 4 Days to Hawaii! ; AAA+++; Excellent Service; Great Pricing; Fast Delivery-Faster Than Expected to Hawaii!; Shipped 06 03, Tues, Received 06/07 Sat to Hawaii using free shipping; USPS Ground Mail, Hardcover Book in Excellent Condition--Better Than Described ; TLC Packaging; Excellent Seller Communication, Sends updates . Highly Recommended!, Thank you very much!