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9781538127964
ISBN
1538127962
Book Title
Parenting Our Parents : Transforming the Challenge Into a Journey of Love
Publisher
Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, Incorporated
Item Length
8.5 in
Publication Year
2019
Format
Hardcover
Language
English
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Yes
Item Height
0.9 in
Author
Jane Wolf Frances
Genre
Family & Relationships, Self-Help
Topic
Parenting / Parent & Adult Child, Eldercare, Life Stages / Later Years, Aging
Item Weight
20.4 Oz
Item Width
5.5 in
Number of Pages
344 Pages
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Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, Incorporated
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1538127962
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9781538127964
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Book Title
Parenting Our Parents : Transforming the Challenge Into a Journey of Love
Number of Pages
344 Pages
Language
English
Publication Year
2019
Topic
Parenting / Parent & Adult Child, Eldercare, Life Stages / Later Years, Aging
Illustrator
Yes
Genre
Family & Relationships, Self-Help
Author
Jane Wolf Frances
Format
Hardcover

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Item Height
0.9 in
Item Weight
20.4 Oz
Item Length
8.5 in
Item Width
5.5 in

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A must-read for children of aging parents. Jane Wolf Frances writes from a firm base of empathy and knowledge about a situation that--sooner or later--affects us all. Her book provided me with trustworthy companionship and practical guidance in just the right amounts. Extremely useful and highly recommended., Frances hones in on the transformative experience of becoming your parents' parent when they can no longer care for themselves. She wrote the book because she found no other like it when she encountered her parents' initial crisis. She has produced a work that is absorbing, encouraging, and an outstanding resource for those who confront similar eldercare challenges. . . Frances has written a thoughtful, touching, and illuminating book that will help anyone who is fortunate enough to read it., Parenting Our Parents by Jane Wolf Frances is a brilliant, heartfelt and very personal book that I believe will become indispensableto a great many people.It is filled with important information from a woman who has gained this wisdom the hard way. And, as a practicing therapist she has the training and insight to share her insights in a very practical and appropriate manner. If you are in this parenting role or about to be this is the place to start., Parenting Our Parents: e" takes the guess work out of parenting older relatives and loved ones, by helping the reader make informed decisions, offering tools for communication, and plans for going forward at a time when confusion and denial can run rampant. Her "How To" guide offers a process and understanding that can make this daunting journey not just bearable but truly an act of love. I whole-heartedly recommend this book., This book is a revelation, a generous, comprehensive and wise guided tour of all the issues we confront in struggling to meet the needs of aging and increasingly dependent parents. It's loaded with wisdom, practical advice and inspiration on everything I and my family faced as our parents aged, got sick and faced death, needing their kids more and more. Frances writes as a longtime counselor seasoned with geriatric experience, but I found just as moving--and helpful--her unflinching accounts of her own journey in coming to terms with the needs of her aging parents. As I read, kept finding myself drifting off to replay something that happened in my family, and how something she said so perfectly applied. As our parents went through the end years of their lives, my husband and I kept reminding each other of nuggets of wisdom from the book--"Under-react!" my husband would remind me with a smile when I started getting upset about something that my elderly dad had said. Now that my husband and I are approaching the stage of being "aging parents" ourselves, I want everyone in OUR family to read this book to help them support us with wisdom and love. And as a longtime developer of training programs for major companies, I see the Frances' book as an invaluble learning resource for people in all walks of life. I recommend the book wholeheartedly., Parenting Our Parents: e" takes the guess work out of parenting older relatives and loved ones, by helping the reader make informed decisions, offering tools for communication, and plans for going forward at a time when confusion and denial can run rampant.... I whole-heartedly recommend this book., Frances hones in on the transformative experience of becoming your parents' parent when they can no longer care for themselves. She wrote the book because she found no other like it when she encountered her parents' initial crisis. She has produced a work that is absorbing, encouraging, and an outstanding resource for those who confront similar eldercare challenges... Frances has written a thoughtful, touching, and illuminating book that will help anyone who is fortunate enough to read it., NHS helps middle class families obtain excellent long-term nursing home care paid through government benefits while preserving and protecting family assets. We have been in the field of nursing home care for over 40 years. Parenting Our Parents is critical because so many people are dealing with caring for their parents long before they realize that they have a problem. The issues have likely been happening for a decade. The lack of understanding of what they are dealing with have caused them to make poor decisions that is completely unfamiliar. Parenting Our Parents gives individuals the guidance, insight and direction they need to navigate these potential problems and ensure that mistakes are not made that can be extremely harmful and in some cases disastrous. We strongly encourage anyone currently caring for an elderly parent or will be providing that care in the near future to read the book and get the answers you will need now., To anyone in denial about what may soon be unfolding for their family, I urge you to PLEASE READ THIS BOOK!! Jane provides an insightful, sensitive and uplifting way to truly transform this potentially difficult process into a journey of love and healing. These pages contain tools for developing an awareness of how to confront fears about this journey, providing new insights and opportunities for laughter, and gentle ways to accept grief. It offers help for families so they can better understand their parent's changing needs in order to create a more comfortable journey and loving passage. I am incredibly grateful to Jane for what she shares in this book; it helped me immensely, both personally and professionally! I've recommended it to many clients and colleagues to assist them in developing strategies for their individual circumstances. These pages also guided me in recognizing what I needed to do to heal my relationship with my mother and help her appreciate her life so that we were better prepared for experiencing her peaceful passing. Once that occurred, this book offered me guidance for my own self-healing.eriencing her peaceful passing. Once that occurred, this book offered me guidance for my own self-healing.eriencing her peaceful passing. Once that occurred, this book offered me guidance for my own self-healing.eriencing her peaceful passing. Once that occurred, this book offered me guidance for my own self-healing., Parenting Our Parents by Jane Wolf Frances is a brilliant, heartfelt and very personal book that I believe will become indispensableto a great many people. It is filled with important information from a woman who has gained this wisdom the hard way. And, as a practicing therapist she has the training and insight to share her insights in a very practical and appropriate manner. If you are in this parenting role or about to be this is the place to start., This is a masterful piece of work, invaluable to countless folks who will be taking care of their parents in their twilight years. I am in fact one of those parents, who is cared for by a wonderful daughter and son-in-law, but it made me even more aware of how much they contribute to my lifestyle. Read it, you wont regret it., This book is a revelation, a generous, comprehensive and wise guided tour of all the issues we confront in struggling to meet the needs of aging and increasingly dependent parents.It's loaded with wisdom, practical advice and inspiration on everything I and my family faced as our parents aged, got sick and faced death, needing their kids more and more.Frances writes as a longtime counselor seasoned with geriatric experience, but I found just as moving--and helpful--her unflinching accounts of her own journey in coming to terms with the needs of her aging parents. As I read, kept finding myself drifting off to replay something that happened in my family, and how something she said so perfectly applied. As our parents went through the end years of their lives, my husband and I kept reminding each other of nuggets of wisdom from the book--"Under-react!" my husband would remind me with a smile when I started getting upset about something that my elderly dad had said.Now that my husband and I are approaching the stage of being "aging parents" ourselves, I want everyone in OUR family to read this book to help them support us with wisdom and love.And as a longtime developer of training programs for major companies, I see the Frances' book as an invaluble learning resource for people in all walks of life.I recommend the book wholeheartedly., As a caregiver of 10 years' duration and a gerontologist, I wish I had had this book at the beginning of my journey. That said, the book is still valuable to me and is mandatory reading for anyone taking care of his/her parents. The author raises many issues that resonate with me and my experiences. Two in particular stand out: on pp. 27-28, the author writes, "Sitting with my thoughts that day, I also uncovered a new feeling, an odd sense of power and influence I was pretty sure I didn't like...It wasn't power that I wanted...What I really longed for was a magic wand so that my Mom and Dad wouldn't be ill, in pain, disabled, or die." That is exactly how I feel: I am uncomfortable with the role/power reversal and long for the days when my parents, now just my father, were young and healthy (yes, even after 10 years). Second, Ms. Wolf Frances writes about how to look at caregiving. On pp. 28-29, she says, "One definition of the word 'sacrifice' is 'something we make sacred,' like an offering. Remembering this, I was able to re-visit the notion of loss by asking myself: was this reversal of customary roles something I could choose to make sacred rather than fill it with struggle and loss? All of a sudden, I saw an opening in my thinking. I'd found a way to look at this choice that moved me from potential losses to possible gains." Reading that was highly comforting and made me consider the honor it gives me to take care of my father. There is much more I could write because the book is richly layered with valuable information. I feel blessed that I have the opportunity to savor it., To anyone in denial about what may soon be unfolding for their family, I urge you to PLEASE READ THIS BOOK!! Jane provides an insightful, sensitive and uplifting way to truly transform this potentially difficult process into a journey of love and healing. These pages contain tools for developing an awareness of how to confront fears about this journey, providing new insights and opportunities for laughter, and gentle ways to accept grief. It offers help for families so they can better understand their parent's changing needs in order to create a more comfortable journey and loving passage. I am incredibly grateful to Jane for what she shares in this book; it helped me immensely, both personally and professionally! I've recommended it to many clients and colleagues to assist them in developing strategies for their individual circumstances. These pages also guided me in recognizing what I needed to do to heal my relationship with my mother and help her appreciate her life so that we were better prepared for experiencing her peaceful passing. Once that occurred, this book offered me guidance for my own self-healing., As a caregiver of 10 years' duration and a gerontologist, I wish I had had this book at the beginning of my journey. That said, the book is still valuable to me and is mandatory reading for anyone taking care of his/her parents. The author raises many issues that resonate with me and my experiences. Two in particular stand out: on pp. 27-28, the author writes, "Sitting with my thoughts that day, I also uncovered a new feeling, an odd sense of power and influence I was pretty sure I didn't like...It wasn't power that I wanted...What I really longed for was a magic wand so that my Mom and Dad wouldn't be ill, in pain, disabled, or die." That is exactly how I feel: I am uncomfortable with the role/power reversal and long for the days when my parents, now just my father, were young and healthy (yes, even after 10 years). Second, Ms. Wolf Frances writes about how to look at caregiving. On pp. 28-29, she says, "One definition of the word 'sacrifice' is 'something we make sacred,' like an offering. Remembering this, I was able to re-visit the notion of loss by asking myself: was this reversal of customary roles something I could choose to make sacred rather than fill it with struggle and loss? All of a sudden, I saw an opening in my thinking. I'd found a way to look at this choice that moved me from potential losses to possible gains." Reading that was highly comforting and made me consider the honor it gives me to take care of my father. There is much more I could write because the book is richly layered with valuable information. I feel blessed that I have the opportunity to savor it. mp;apos; is 'something we make sacred,' like an offering. Remembering this, I was able to re-visit the notion of loss by asking myself: was this reversal of customary roles something I could choose to make sacred rather than fill it with struggle and loss? All of a sudden, I saw an opening in my thinking. I'd found a way to look at this choice that moved me from potential losses to possible gains." Reading that was highly comforting and made me consider the honor it gives me to take care of my father. There is much more I could write because the book is richly layered with valuable information. I feel blessed that I have the opportunity to savor it.ing this, I was able to re-visit the notion of loss by asking myself: was this reversal of customary roles something I could choose to make sacred rather than fill it with struggle and loss? All of a sudden, I saw an opening in my thinking. I'd found a way to look at this choice that moved me from potential losses to possible gains." Reading that was highly comforting and made me consider the honor it gives me to take care of my father. There is much more I could write because the book is richly layered with valuable information. I feel blessed that I have the opportunity to savor it., So many of us plan for children, yet few are adequately prepared to care for aging parents. Jane Wolf Frances understands the struggles of caring for elders in need, and her advice is spot on. Whether you're a caregiver today or thinking about challenges that may come tomorrow, Frances' expertise, experience, and know-how will be of great help, This book is a revelation, a generous, comprehensive and wise guided tour of all the issues we confront in struggling to meet the needs of aging and increasingly dependent parents. It's loaded with wisdom, practical advice and inspiration on everything I and my family faced as our parents aged, got sick and faced death, needing their kids more and more. Frances writes as a longtime counselor seasoned with geriatric experience, but I found just as moving--and helpful--her unflinching accounts of her own journey in coming to terms with the needs of her aging parents. As I read, kept finding myself drifting off to replay something that happened in my family, and how something she said so perfectly applied. As our parents went through the end years of their lives, my husband and I kept reminding each other of nuggets of wisdom from the book--"Under-react!" my husband would remind me with a smile when I started getting upset about something that my elderly dad had said. Now that my husband and I are approaching the stage of being "aging parents" ourselves, I want everyone in OUR family to read this book to help them support us with wisdom and love. And as a longtime developer of training programs for major companies, I see the Frances' book as an invaluble learning resource for people in all walks of life. I recommend the book wholeheartedly. sband and I are approaching the stage of being "aging parents" ourselves, I want everyone in OUR family to read this book to help them support us with wisdom and love. And as a longtime developer of training programs for major companies, I see the Frances' book as an invaluble learning resource for people in all walks of life. I recommend the book wholeheartedly.sband and I are approaching the stage of being "aging parents" ourselves, I want everyone in OUR family to read this book to help them support us with wisdom and love. And as a longtime developer of training programs for major companies, I see the Frances' book as an invaluble learning resource for people in all walks of life. I recommend the book wholeheartedly.sband and I are approaching the stage of being "aging parents" ourselves, I want everyone in OUR family to read this book to help them support us with wisdom and love. And as a longtime developer of training programs for major companies, I see the Frances' book as an invaluble learning resource for people in all walks of life. I recommend the book wholeheartedly., Jane Wolf Frances has written an extraordinarily valuable book for so many people who currently or will eventually care for their parents. She is an empathetic instructor who can help others with the difficulties of recognizing the signs that our parents need help and following through with those decisions that affect the lives of both parties. Her background as a psychotherapist, attorney and coach coupled with her own experience in this challenging situation make her the perfect author for this topic. She writes with passion and with precision --- a rare combination indeed. People NEED to read this book and keep it close - it will aid their hearts and minds and enrich their lives., As a caregiver of 10 years' duration and a gerontologist, I wish I had had this book at the beginning of my journey. That said, the book is still valuable to me and is mandatory reading for anyone taking care of his/her parents. The author raises many issues that resonate with me and my experiences. Two in particular stand out: on pp. 27-28, the author writes, "Sitting with my thoughts that day, I also uncovered a new feeling, an odd sense of power and influence I was pretty sure I didn't like...It wasn't power that I wanted...What I really longed for was a magic wand so that my Mom and Dad wouldn't be ill, in pain, disabled, or die." That is exactly how I feel: I am uncomfortable with the role/power reversal and long for the days when my parents, now just my father, were young and healthy (yes, even after 10 years).Second, Ms. Wolf Frances writes about how to look at caregiving. On pp. 28-29, she says, "One definition of the word 'sacrifice' is 'something we make sacred,' like an offering. Remembering this, I was able to re-visit the notion of loss by asking myself: was this reversal of customary roles something I could choose to make sacred rather than fill it with struggle and loss? All of a sudden, I saw an opening in my thinking. I'd found a way to look at this choice that moved me from potential losses to possible gains." Reading that was highly comforting and made me consider the honor it gives me to take care of my father.There is much more I could write because the book is richly layered with valuable information. I feel blessed that I have the opportunity to savor it., NHS helps middle class families obtain excellent long-term nursing home care paid through government benefits while preserving and protecting family assets. We have been in the field of nursing home care for over 40 years. Parenting Our Parents is critical because so many people are dealing with caring for their parents long before they realize that they have a problem. The issues have likely been happening for a decade. The lack of understanding of what they are dealing with have caused them to make poor decisions that is completely unfamiliar. Parenting Our Parents gives individuals the guidance, insight and direction they need to navigate these potential problems and ensure that mistakes are not made that can be extremely harmful and in some cases disastrous.We strongly encourage anyone currently caring for an elderly parent or will be providing that care in the near future to read the book and get the answers you will need now.
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Dewey Decimal
306.8740846
Table Of Content
Prologue: Why I Wrote This Book 1 Finding Out Our Parents Need Someone to Help Them 2 Choosing POP--or Not 3 Entering POP in the Middle of a Crisis 4 Learning More Than We Wanted to Know: Our Parents' Financial, Health, Legal, Spiritual, and Other Issues 5 Doing and Undoing Paperwork: Making Our Parents Safer and Part of the Twenty-First Century 6 Facing Down the Life-and-Death Mission of POP--Theirs and Yours 7 Discovering Our Parents May Need to Leave Home 8 Finding the Best Fit for Our Parents' New Home 9 Dealing with All Our Parents' Stuff 10 Settling Our Parents into Their New Lives 11 Trying to Make a Permanent POPlan: Do You Want to See God Laugh? 12 Expecting the Unexpected When We're Doing POP 13 Turning POP into Our Giant Do-Over: Forgiveness, Compassion, and Gratitude Fill the Space 14 Waiting as Our Parents Become Frailer, Weaker, Smaller, and Maybe Worse 15 Doing the Only Thing Left: Comfort-Filling Your Parents 16 Letting Go of the Beloved Parents We've Parented 17 When POP Is Over and We Need to Launch Our New Lives Epilogue: Where Do We All Go from Here? Notes Acknowledgments Suggested Reading Index About the Author
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This book is a "must read" for anyone who is presently caring for their aging parents, anyone who will eventually care for their aging parents or anyone planning on growing older. The author brings her decades of professional experiences as a psychotherapist, an attorney, a coach and a daughter to this book. She simultaneously chronicles her own heart-warming and touching journey as well as providing a comprehensive guide on doing effective family caregiving in the 21st century. Many report feeling "deeply understood" reading this book as they resonated with the candid revelations of the author's inner struggles. Others find hers "a sane voice in a difficult world." You will not be disappointed with reading the dilemmas, insights and decisions told in "My Story," as you see what can be learned from this expert's mistakes as well as her successes. Jane Wolf Frances offers many valuable tips and insights as she guides you from the beginning of the POPcycle, as she's termed it, all the way to the end of her own parents' lives. Whether you're one of the 75 million Americans who are lucky enough to be "ParentingOurParents," or you're still struggling with overwhelm and confusion, you'll need to know what's being offered here. You will learn how you can: read the signs your parents need help; have "the talk" with your folks; make crucial decisions to get the maximum benefits available;enroll more family to be on the team; balance the elements in the new life you're taking on as ParentingOurParents will change your life;transform the remarkable challenges of role reversals - legal, emotional, practical, residential - into a true journey of love., More than ever, people are living longer, and adult children are thrust into the role of parent to their own parents. This work provides new tools and positivity for the 75 million Americans struggling with how to respond to the practical and emotional challenges of suddenly being in charge of aging or ailing parents., This book is a "must read" for anyone who is presently caring for their aging parents, anyone who will eventually care for their aging parents or anyone planning on growing older. The author brings her decades of professional experiences as a psychotherapist, an attorney, a coach and a daughter to this book. She simultaneously chronicles her own heart-warming and touching journey as well as providing a comprehensive guide on doing effective family caregiving in the 21sr century. Many report feeling "deeply understood" reading this book as they resonated with the candid revelations of the author's inner struggles. Others find hers "a sane voice in a difficult world." You will not be disappointed with reading the dilemmas, insights and decisions told in "My Story," as you see what can be learned from this expert's mistakes as well as her successes. Jane Wolf Frances offers many valuable tips and insights as she guides you from the beginning of the POPcycle, as she's termed it, all the way to the end of her own parents' lives. Whether you're one of the 75 million Americans who are lucky enough to be "ParentingOurParents," or you're still struggling with overwhelm and confusion, you'll need to know what's being offered here. You will learn how you can * read the signs your parents need help; * have "the talk" with your folks; * make crucial decisions to get the maximum benefits available; * enroll more family to be on the team; * balance the elements in the new life you're taking on as ParentingOurParents will change your life; and * transform the remarkable challenges of role reversals - legal, emotional, practical, residential - into a true journey of love., This book is a "must read" for anyone who is presently caring for their aging parents, anyone who will eventually care for their aging parents or anyone planning on growing older. The author brings her decades of professional experiences as a psychotherapist, an attorney, a coach and a daughter to this book. She simultaneously chronicles her own heart-warming and touching journey as well as providing a comprehensive guide on doing effective family caregiving in the 21st century. Many report feeling "deeply understood" reading this book as they resonated with the candid revelations of the author's inner struggles. Others find hers "a sane voice in a difficult world." You will not be disappointed with reading the dilemmas, insights and decisions told in "My Story," as you see what can be learned from this expert's mistakes as well as her successes. Jane Wolf Frances offers many valuable tips and insights as she guides you from the beginning of the POPcycle, as she's termed it, all the way to the end of her own parents' lives. Whether you're one of the 75 million Americans who are lucky enough to be "ParentingOurParents," or you're still struggling with overwhelm and confusion, you'll need to know what's being offered here. You will learn how you can: oread the signs your parents need help; ohave "the talk" with your folks; omake crucial decisions to get the maximum benefits available; oenroll more family to be on the team; obalance the elements in the new life you're taking on as ParentingOurParents will change your life; otransform the remarkable challenges of role reversals - legal, emotional, practical, residential - into a true journey of love.
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