After a turbulent three year relationship in which I strived to help my girlfriend overcome alcoholism and attempted to assist her in understanding how her trauma she had suffered shaped her behaviors as an adult. The problems for me were overwhelming. I walked on eggshells. I was triangulated with ex lovers and the separated husband and all the promiscuity and hurt from her on so many levels that were so subtlety breaking me down and making me so intensely focused on only her whims and desires that I lost myself. The chronic break ups via text message and the absolute ignorance of discussion about any wrong doing to menu her and if there was any talks they quickly became all about how it's my fault and how I'm the problem and what I needed to change to make her happy. I've realized through reading POWER that I was bonded to my abuser and I wasn't the problem. I'm feeling better in my recovery and am working to repair the mess that I've become. I'm feeling more confident each day and am beginning to change bad habits to get back to successful habits. I have zero contact with her. However I know it will at this point be difficult to resist her if she decides to try to call me back. The realization that the trauma bond is so powerful within my brain that it is like being a drug addict. I have to recall the awful things she put me through so I become disinterested or I could fall back into the abuse pattern again. Thank you for this book. It is invaluable to me. I have purchased a second copy for my friend. She is in a similar relationship. I know it will give her the knowledge necessary to break away.Read full review
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This book is clear, concise and a must read for anyone dealing with a suspected narcissist in their life.
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As described, thank you!
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