I think the book is well l...aid out and easy to read, like a good conversation. While I was familiar with most of the precepts before reading the book, I think the author shows that it is important for a woman to develop her own standards and to ask a man to respect them and that if she doesn't, he won't miraculously know how to treat her the way that she wants to be treated. Harvey is religious-based so if that is something that is an issue for the reader, just substitute 'moral compass' for putting G-d first. Being a woman, I didn't like reading the familiar tale that a man is going to go for sex if it is not provided because I think it gives men the 'reationale' to go outside the relationship when their woman is not available at any given time. However I realized that the whole point of the book is to see things from a MAN'S perspective and while this is just ONE man's opinion, it is helpful to know that I also have to be on my toes to make sure the man in my relationship is receiving what he needs from me. Giving the 90 day challenge is one way to find out how the man will act out of respect. Like Harvey says, if he doesn't respect you now, he won't respect you later. All in all, a very good book and recommended reading for ANYONE who is dating or thinking about what went wrong in their relationships.
I really liked this book. I thought it was entertaining and ...yet an honest and insightful male perspective. What I took away from reading it is that I do have a really great boyfriend. We've been together for a little over a year and I can relate to him in a new context now with regard to his need to provide and protect. It also made me feel good to recongnize how he professes with respect to my title as his girlfriend. Definitely worth a read. I think there is something for everyone, both men and women, to gain at an individual level from this book.
As a man, I had to read this book by myself and see i...f what Steve portraits as the average man has to do with how I see myself. Well, I have to tell that he's right for the most part. No surprise, he's a man! Surely that men in general is not extremely as he describes it is, there are some variations, but these variations aren't too distant from the standards explained in these pages. Basically, if a woman lets a man be a man, gives him three basic things (support, loyalty and, hmmm...the "cookie") and set commitment requirements without scaring her partner the more likely she will have a clear vision on where the relationship is going is the man she is with is worth being with and fighting for. In other words, Steve calls women to take a stand and tell loud and clear what she wants from her partner, without fearing the possibilities, including the one in which she loses the man. Yes, losing the man you love, but don't love you back good enough, or just love you differently. Steve believes that you'd better alone than with someone who supposedly don't love you in your own concept. It's up to you, ladies, to follow or not his advice - find love patiently, facing slight disappointments one after another until you find Mr. Right naturally and with no pressure, or keep doing just the way you do, going errands, with hopes of someday being there, and accept anything in the end because you're just too tired trying to make it right. Book well written and very enjoyable, finished in just one day.
This is an excellent book, it's an easy and entertaining read,... full of humor and common sense tips for improving your relationship or finding a new one. The information has worked wonders for my relationship of 8 years and I have friends who have benefited greatly from the book as well. I think Steve Harvey has made a great effort to try to break the damaging cycle that women and men go through. Men feel disrespected and undervalued by women, so as a result, they become players or treat women poorly, and in return, women learn not to rely on men and be completely independent, letting any potential man know that he is not really needed, and therefore doesn't feel the need to "act like a man", thus the cycle begins again. This book not only teaches women what to look for and require from a man, but also teaches women how to treat men so that they feel compelled to treat their woman right.
Steve Harvey, comedian and host of the nationally syndic...ated “Steve Harvey Morning Show” is now a bestselling author. This number one bestselling book has truly been a hit. It has blown away so many readers. The comedy that we have come to love from Steve Harvey is all throughout this book. Amidst the humor, there is actually some practical relationship advice. Harvey discusses these topics – --The Ninety Day Rule: Ford requires it of its employees. Should you require it of your man? --How to spot a mama's boy and what if anything you can do about it. --When to introduce the kids. And what to read into the first interaction between your date and your kids. --The five questions every woman should ask a man to determine how serious he is. Harvey has an interesting viewpoint of how relationships between a man and a woman should be. “Old-fashioned” concepts are praised. A man should be a man and a lady should be a lady. What’s wrong with that? That is how it should be. Men are simple. Women aren’t. Obviously, men and women are different. Harvey provides insight into how a man really thinks. If you want to know about men, ask a man. For example, Harvey candidly explains how a man feels about the words “I want to talk.” He says: “For a man, few words are as menacing as those four—especially when a woman is the one saying them and he's on the receiving end. Those four words can mean only two things to men: either we did something wrong or, worse, you really literally just want to talk. Now, we understand that we're not the essence of perfection and there are going to be times when you're mad at us and need to let us know it; we get that, though we don't necessarily want to have to concentrate on an hourlong angry lecture about how we screwed up. But even more? No man wants to sit around gabbing with you like we're one of your girlfriends. Ever. It's just not in our DNA to lounge around, sip coffee, and dab at our eyes with tissue as if we're in an AA meeting or on some psychologist's couch trying to get things off our chest. When men are talking, and especially when they're listening, it's with purpose.” Harvey helps us to bridge the gap between the sexes and laugh about it. No wonder this book is a hit.