Easy to read and understand for a 'non reader' - Information is Clear and Life-Changing-Helpful. It changed my life when I read it 20 years ago. Since then, I have given a copy of this book to help others when I recognized they were in a verbally abusive relationship. Most recently it was given to a man who has been an extremely abusive marriage for 50 years. He got it. He got out. Most all hope was lost for him, and now he has a chance for true happiness late in life. This book worked like a miracle worker. I, personally, will be forever grateful to Patricia Evans for putting a name on this and putting it out there.
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This easy read flows with information that helps identify things we say and do that are more than just not nice things to say but they are abusive. When you realize you too might be guilty of verbal abuse and its not just the other person, the tendency is to take a step back, and look at self instead of pointing fingers, then can come healing. Best written book I've read on the subject. I've read many self help books. My grown son picked it up, quickly read 3 chapters and asked to take it home. He's going through a divorce and said the book was an eye-opener and helped him refrain from a problem when he talked to his wife the next time. My friend recommended the book on a bad day for me and it helped me see from a broader perspective that abusivenes starts with small words and the way we use them on each other. Fast, easy reading. SLLRead full review
This one book completely changed my life. Pre-conditioned from childhood I was a great target for verbal abuse. Found myself sitting and not saying anything on the outside, but on the inside I was standing up screaming. Thanks to reading this book three times over the last seven years has helped me to learn my personal boundaries, where they are and how to protect them, and in doing so how to protect the spirit of life within me. It taught me how to deal with verbal abuse enabling me to stay married to the same man for 25 years. In the process of changing myself it has forced my husband to change as well. We are a lot happier and have a much healthier relationship. I recommend this book for any young woman. If for no other reason than to help others who may not recognize verbal abuse. Identifying the problem is half the battle. Knowing the right thing to do in a given situation helps give you the resolve you need to stand your ground and do the right thing.Read full review
I first read this book in the late 90s. I was in tears, since it validated all my experiences and helped me feel understood and less alone. Patricia Evans is exceptionally talented at balancing her discussions of the dynamics of abuse *while* empowering victims. There's so much victim-blaming literature out there, and after being verbally abused, the last thing a victim needs is to hear it's her/his fault. Patricia Evans validates the life view of many victims, explains to them why they feel so confused and upset, and offers sensitive, loving, and nonjudgmental advice for dealing with verbal abusers. Now that I'm a college instructor, I keep multiple copies of this book on hand and distribute them when students come to me to discuss their experiences with verbal abuse. I hate to sound like a commercial for this book, but I honestly think this is essential reading for anyone who thinks she or he is experiencing or has experienced verbal abuse. Evans' characterizations tend to be painted with an overly-broad brush, IMO, but she accomplishes what I think is the most important thing: validating and empowering victims and survivors of abuse.Read full review
This is a fantastic book! I bought it for my daughter whom I suspected was in a verbally abusive relationship. I wanted to read it first, not wanting to give a recommendation when I hadn't read it first. It turns out she grew up in a verbally abusive house!!!! That's right!!! I had been dealing with verbal abuse for 30 years. OMG! This book has made a significant change in our marriage and our family. Verbal abuse is insidious. It's sneaky and you don't really realize its happening, you just feel bad or maybe you feel a little crazy. The one thing she teaches right away is if your feeling it it's true. Wow! This book should be in every school.. I recommend it highly. I've bought one for my daughter, my son and my niece. I think the next one will be to the local women's shelter !!!!
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