Now maybe you’ve received the “King Arthur’s Dilemma: A Wise Lesson for All Men to Learn” that’s currently circulating the Internet.
Here’s how it goes: As a test, young Arthur was asked to answer the question, “What do women really want?” He finally went to “a repugnant old witch” to get the answer. She said she’d tell him if he’d marry her. He agreed and she gave the answer: “To be in charge of their own life.”
Then the wedding … and Arthur was v. reluctant. But, this being a fairytale, there was more testing of our hero ahead. She appeared to him as beautiful woman saying that since he’d been so kind to her, she’d be a witch half the time, and a beautiful maiden half the time. But he would have to choose when!
He pondered … a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his home, an old witch? Or by day a hideous hag, but by night a beautiful woman with whom to enjoy many intimate moments?
WHAT WOULD YOU DO? Which would you choose?
The fable continues: “Noble Arthur replied he would let her choose for herself. Upon hearing this, she announced she would be beautiful all the time, because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.”
This came to me at an interesting time, having just finished reading “Surrendered Wife,” and also a synopsis of “Men are from Mars” about what MEN really want. John Gray, author of the latter, reiterates, “men and woman have very different primary needs.” Men, he says, need appreciation, acceptance, and trust. He goes on to say “Without appreciation, a person begins to feel inadequate and incapable of giving support.” Funny he switches to “person” here. An unappreciated man, he says, becomes “passive, lazy, weak, dependent, insecure and apt to procrastinate.”
But then so do I. Actually, I get ugly.
My answer to this question “What do women want?” has always been “The same thing men want.”